Oral sex, pornographic videos, amateur pink videos sent via smartphones, sex in public or in cheap hotels, participation of onlookers, as well as myth-busting the taboo of anal sex.
All of these are covered in a new study conducted by the Andrology Institute of Athens which takes a revealing look into the lives of Greek lovers, uncovering their most unsual or as it seems, usual, kinky sexual behavior. Data collected from two thousand couples over a period of two years provide incredible insight into our sex lives.
Regarding the findings, Konstantinos Konstantinidis, MD, PSC, PhD, urologist – andrologist, President of International Andrology and of the Andrology Institute as well as Head of the Department of Sexual Health at Athens Medical Centre, notes the following:
“Nature equipped man with the ability to feel sexual arousal and pleasure, whether its purpose is reproduction or for orgasmic satisfaction. Shame, guilt and punishment do not deter physical pleasure, on the contrary, they often intensify it. Breaking the rules and disobeying prohibitions has proven over the centuries to intensify sexual pleasure, despite all those ethical commands used by religions and civilizations in their efforts to tame the acumen of Diotima of Mantinea”.
Certain sexual kinks that modern psychiatry has commonly characterized as “abnormalities”, are actually considered to be common place by the general population, according to a new study published by the Journal of Sex Research.
As the researchers discovered, four out of eight sexual behaviors previously described as “uncommon” were found to be neither rare nor unusual among the surveyed experiences.
“In total, about half of the volunteers (45.6%) showed an interest in at least one “uncommon” kink, while one in three (33%) had engaged in the said kink, on at least one occasion time,” according to Professor Christian Joyal, one of the authors.
Despite the continuous and centuries old polemic unleashed by moralists regarding the sins of sexuality, humans still question commonly held sexual advice and follow their senses, which never bow to prohibitions and labels.
The aforementioned research carried out by the Andrology Institute further illustrates this point.
From Marquis de Sade to the Internet
Marquis de Sade believed that true happiness lies in the senses and that virtue does not satisfy these. Centuries have passed since then, and in the era of virtual communication, Greeks fall in love and meet partners over the internet or apps at previously unthinkable speed.
80% of the respondents who took part in the research study of the Andrology Institute described masturbation, penile to vaginal contact and oral sex as their most usual sex habits.
“Until just a few years ago, masturbation was considered to be a deadly sin and a cause of brain damage in religions communities. It is no coincidence that one the most commonly used Greek words translates as masturbator,” said Dr. Konstantinidis.
“Oral sex was considered as an activity to be performed by prostitutes, not legitimate wives. The only traditionally accepted sexual activity was vaginal intercourse, since it is the only one that serves the godly command “Be fruitful and multiply.”
40% of men reported that they engaged in anal sex as well as 37% of women. The famous “Greek style” was a taboo for Orthodox Christians for the reason that this pleasure is not linked to reproduction,” he added.
- Despite the stereotypes about gay men engaging exclusively in anal sex, 75% of the respondents prefer oral sex and masturbation as opposed to 36% who prefer anal sex.
- 75% of women and 25% of men wear sexy lingerie and underwear. “You admire a naked body as you do an ancient Greek statue and a half-naked body creates desire and arousal.”
- 55% of women and 65% of men exchange half-naked photos via the Internet.
- 60% of the participants enjoy reading erotic stories.
- 40% enjoy having sex in public.
- 20% engage in role play, for instance, a couple pretends to be strangers who meet for the first time.
- 36% enjoy having sex in cheap hotels. “Vulgarizing the body and awakening the brain, people realized that the more you give in to your inner instincts, the more pleasure you achieve,” according to Dr. Konstantinos Konstantinidis.
- 40% like to have onlookers. Sexual desire for the watching individual creates enhanced brain signals that increase heart rate and libido as well as pleasure.
- 36% enjoy BDSM and 30% enjoy power play, i.e. spanking, outfits and dominance play etc.
- 60% of women and 80% of men watch pornography regularly, together and apart.
- 10% of women and 18% of men have taken part in group sex.
- 13% of the respondents consented to be whipped. “Sex can be perceived as an exercise of power among partners. Punishment, physical pain and sacrifice can be an aphrodisiac elixir,” the expert highlighted.
- 10% enjoy swinging.
- 80% of the participants have used smart devices to record an erotic video.
- 46% of men visit brothels.
- 50% of the unfaithful participants committed infidelity with someone close, such as the wife or the husband of a friend.
“If we tried to create a comprehensive map of the history of human sexuality, which would extend from the creation of man to de Sade’s “Boudoir Philosophy” and the American “Fifty Shades of Grey”, men and women often lead one righteous social life and one dark, secret and unspeakable sex life, even if it has been recorded on their smartphones.
We tend to criticize the habits of others, but not our own. When it comes to our neighbor, we judge what’s moral and immoral, or what’s sinful and virtuous, but we forget that we do exactly the same behind the closed doors of our home. Even if Don Quixote said that we should never judge the sins of others, if we have not looked to our own before,” concludes Dr. Konstantinidis.